Ideas to Spice Up Your Sex Life
One of the most common complaints I hear from both men and women alike is that once, the relationship or marriage gets settled or comfortable, the sex/love life gets boring. Have ever heard the old saying? “Why is the bride smiling as she walks down the aisle? Because she knows she has given oral sex for the last time.” Yikes! The first time I heard that I thought …do women really think that way? Then I thought what is wrong with me? Am I mistaken or isn’t it the goal to sexually satisfy your partner? Show me one man that doesn’t love oral sex, and I will show you a money tree that replenishes itself in my back yard! I truly believe that to have a happy healthy sex life, you must understand that satisfying your partner is the key. If you keep your partner focused, turned on at all times, and you treat them right, the rewards will be abundant. A man once said to me, if someone is sexually satisfied there is nothing they won’t do to keep their partner happy.
Date Night is very popular with the ladies; it essentially is one night a week where you go out and spend time focusing on you as a couple and doing something fun. A suggestion that each partner alternate planning the date from week to week, would make both partners equally involved. This allows each of you to share the others interest. Perhaps he will plan tickets to a baseball game and she will plan tickets to the theater, both will enrich you. Not only will this bring you closer together, but it creates depth to your relationship. For the record we all know the sex is usually amazing after a great date.
Email, text, voicemail, all play a huge role in our busy day to day lives. I suggest utilizing them, as a playful sensual tool of anticipation. It is very sexy to receive a text that simply says I can’t stop thinking of you.” or a voicemail telling you, “How great it would be to take a bubble bath together later.” Better yet in an email revealing to you, how incredible last night was. Everyone loves to be stimulated, if you take some time to build the anticipation, it will make the sex much more enhanced.
Sexy lingerie, in my opinion is a win win for all involved. As a woman I love sexy lingerie, and it definitely contributes to how sexy I feel during the act of sex. Sexy lingerie comes in such a wide variety of styles, we can always find something to fit any mood we may be in; feeling soft feminine, romantic, perhaps something lacy, feeling mischievous and naughty that may entail something black or red ,see through, maybe with pieces cut out. The greatest thing is men love lingerie; it turns them on, instantly making you sexier and more appealing to him. Engage him, encourage him to buy the sexy lingerie he wants to see you wear, when you wear it for him, incredible sex will be sure to follow.
Risky sex, defined as running the risk of getting caught having sex, somewhere adventurous. Outdoor sex is the most universal form of risky sex. For example, in a parking lot on the hood of the car, in the swimming pool/or on the diving board, possibly on the Las Vegas Strip. There is something exceedingly stimulating about the possibility of getting caught in the act. Risky sex indoors can be equally as exciting, possibly in a dressing room at the mall or perhaps the back of a crowded bar, ever so discreetly. The key is anywhere you know you are not supposed to be having sex is intriguing and will ultimately be exhilarating.
Role Playing is an acquired taste, kind of like caviar. Some people really get into the fantasy of taking on different roles with their partner. Kind of like dressing up for Halloween whenever you want. I have a friend that converted her living room into a huge Middle Eastern tent, threw pillows all around, cooked a fabulous dinner, dressed in a harem girl outfit and treated her husband like a sultan all evening. Imagine playing nurse to his doctor or secretary to his boss, how about housewife to his pool guy, the point is you can go anywhere your imagination will take you and how sexy to have so many different lovers all “roled” up into one creatively exciting person.
Fantasy fulfilling, is massive in the spice up your sex life department. Each of you could write down on different colored slips of paper, a sexual fantasy you want to experience then put them in a draw string bag. So each week you each draw one of the others fantasy, during the week you must fulfill your partners fantasy for them, once or perhaps many times. The exciting aspects of this are, you have no idea which fantasy your partner will be fulfilling for you or when. You also have no idea what fantasy you will be fulfilling for your partner, nothing sexier then the element of surprise and intrigue.
Stolen weekends are perfect for the couple that can benefit by a few days away from the stress that is their day to day life. It is fun to plan getaways to a bed and breakfast maybe go to the ocean, or snow skiing, just the two of you for a weekend of adult play. Indulge yourself and your partner the two of you deserve it. Given the ability to simply enjoy each other and the freedom to have limitless sex, will inevitably bring the two of you closer together. Upon return from your first weekend away, you will hardly be able to wait to plan another.
Phone sex is ideal if you have a partner that you do not live with. For example, if you are dating someone that lives in another state or maybe one of you travel a lot for work. It gives you the opportunity to be erotic in a way you would not normally utilize when you are with your partner all the time. Phone sex is naughty, intriguing and most of all is displays to your lover that when you cannot physically be together you still desire him.
Spontaneity is absolutely the secret to keeping not only your sex life spicier but your relationship healthier and your romance more romantic. Mix in some creativity, open-mindedness and the desire to please your partner; soon you will discover you have the perfect recipe for a stimulating exhilarating sexual relationship.